What’s HOT now?

What’s HOT now?

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On the whole, very little changes year to year when it comes to baby naming trends. Rather, subtle shifts in name choices occur slowly over a couple of decades. So what’s hot today is pretty much the same as what was hot the previous year. It really takes about 20 years to notice more pronounced transformations in naming fashions. So you tend to see more defining characteristics for each new generation. In the 1950s, most favored boy names were still the conventional James, Robert and John – but those mid-century baby boys also included Gary, Larry, Ronald and Donald. For girls, the definers were much more fashionable for the day: Linda, Patricia, Barbara, Nancy and Susan topped the list (although Mary and Margaret were still used heavily, too).  By the 1970s, we saw a radical shift with girls to names like Jennifer, Lisa and Kimberly. For boys, parents continued to stay with old favorites like Michael, James and David. Fast forward to the 1990s, and we again see stylistic changes in girl names: Jessica, Ashley and Brittany. As we neared the end of the 20th century, boy names opened up a little beyond the perennial favorites John, James and David. Names like Christopher, Joshua, Ryan and Justin begin to diversify the list.  So what are the defining names for the 21st century so far?
 
In 2011 it was revealed that Sophia upset Isabella for the coveted #1 spot on the female naming charts. Emma is still #3 (just like last year). Rounding out the Top 10 for female names in order of popularity are Olivia, Ava, Emily, Abigail, Madison, Mia and Chloe. What do all of these names have in common (with the exception of Madison)? Old-fashioned charm and/or dainty sophistication. We are still wondering when Madison might hop on the waterskis with The Fonz and jump the shark, though. No offense, Madison, but you have been lurking on the charts forever it seems, obviously testament to the strength of your appeal (Addison is now following your example). Yet Madison does stick out like a modern sore thumb amidst these other ultra-feminine, conservative gals.
 
What about the boys? Well, American parents are slower to change their tastes when it comes to boy names (or at least they’re less likely to deviate from the norm). Historically, boy names have gravitated to the traditional classics while girl names have had a greater frequency of change over the years. Although we are definitely seeing parents loosen up when it comes to naming their little guys. Jacob is still the #1 boy’s name in America (after an impressive 13 year consecutive run). Other time-tested names made the 2011 Top 10 list for boys: William, Michael, Alexander and Daniel. The Biblical names Noah and Ethan are also all the rage. When it comes to the 21st century, though, we see some unique identifiers. The surname Mason is now #2 in America (thanks Kourtney!), but he also follows the enormously fashionable trend of using surnames as forenames. Then there’s Aiden (an Irish name that is actually spelled Aidan in Ireland, but that’s beside the point, apparently). Aiden has become so wickedly popular that he’s currently spawning some head-scratching alterations: Aaden, Aden, Aidyn, Aydan, Ayden and Aydin. The name ultimately comes from an Old Irish personal name Áed (or Aodh) meaning “fire”, apropos since Áed was the Irish mythological god of the underworld. Aidan is ultimately a modern diminutive and so means “little fire” (pretty cute if you can get past the "hell" god part). Also on the list is Madison’s brother-in-arms Jayden who may be close to overstaying his welcome. We shall see.
 
But were there any striking changes to the list in 2011? Well, yes, this is something the Social Security Department now tracks, i.e., significant movements in a name’s popularity, either up or down the charts. There were a few stand-outs this year.  For girls, the name that had the largest jump in popularity was Briella (as in Gabriella).  She jumped a whopping nearly 400 positions on the charts (from #891 to #497)…why, you ask? Briella Calafiore is yet another break-out reality TV star; a fun-loving, buxom blonde hairstylist from Style Network’s Jerseylicious.  But before you roll your eyes back into your head, let’s put this in perspective. While the name saw a huge jump on the charts, it’s still a low-usage name. The name did double in usage, but only went from about 300 baby girls a year to 600 (that’s not a whole lot). And given the show’s viewing demographics, we can safely guess new mothers of baby Briellas are between 18 and 25.  Other female names which showed remarkably favorable increases in usage are Angelique (probably owing to German tennis player Angelique Kerber’s success at the 2011 U.S. Open); Mila (thanks to Mila Kunis); Elsie & Olive (riding on the wave of antique classics); and Bristol (as in Palin). The female name which took the hardest hit on the charts from 2010 to 2011 is Brisa (the Spanish word for “breeze”).  She’s another casualty of names that come onto the charts with a vengeance and then decline in popularity just as quickly. American parents are also apparently tiring of “D” names because the other female names which dropped significantly in usage were Dana, Desiree and Denise. Kimora is also showing signs of wear, which goes to show you: naming children after reality TV stars have, like the reality TV stars themselves, a relatively short shelf-life.  See our section on pop-culture influence and super trends.
 
The male name Brantley went gang-busters in 2011 (from position #736 in 2010 to #320 nationwide last year), thanks to country music star Brantley Gilbert who had a #1 hit with “Country Must Be Country Wide” in 2011. The singer-songwriter was born in Georgia where, incidentally, Brantley is a Top 100 favorite boy’s name (it’s also a Top 100 in other country-music-loving states Alabama and West Virginia). Coincidence? We think not. How do you explain the big jump in usage for the name Iker, though? That one is easy, too. Iker Casillas is a popular Spanish footballer (that’s European for soccer); he was the goalkeeper for the Spanish National Team who, as captain, led Spain to the 2010 World Cup championship. He’s also a stone-cold fox which helps. By the way, Iker is a hugely popular name in the Catholic countries of Spain and Catalonia today. It means “visitation” in Basque, in celebration of the visit between the Virgin Mary (then pregnant with Jesus) and Elizabeth (who was simultaneously pregnant with John the Baptist).  Other boy names which have seen vast improvements in usage? Maximiliano, Archer, Declan and Atticus. The boy names which are fast going out of style are Brett, Jamarion, Shaun and Jaydon.
 
When viewing "middle-of-the-pack" names on the list (those which show relative moderate popularity) we can still see the same on-going overall trends of distinct American style. They can best be summed up by the following:
 
1.)  American parents can’t seem to be unique enough. They have a knack for constantly inventing new names or radically altering the spelling of traditional names. Unique is unique until it’s not unique anymore. How far will they go to be different? Heaven spelled backwards (Nevaeh) is the perfect example of this.
 
2.)  American parents simple adore using surnames as first names today (a trend that really started to take off in the 1990s). Mason, Logan and Jackson top the list for boys in 2011; while parents of daughters favor Madison, Addison and Taylor.
 
3.)  American parents are influenced by pop-culture today more so than ever before. Names of celebrity babies, names of reality TV stars, and names of superstar athletes all factor significantly onto the charts.
 
4.)  The Old Testament is replacing the New Testament as parents are drawn to names like Jacob, Noah, Ethan and Elijah. Girl names like Abigail, Hannah, Leah and Sarah are now more popular than Mary.
 
5.)  Parents are into the flowery "-a" ending for their baby daughters. A whopping 30% of the Top 100 girl names in 2011 end in "a". Plus, parents are opting for more syllables. Sophia is more popular than Sophie. Isabella over Isabelle, Gabriella over Gabrielle, Camila over Camille and Julia over Julie. Pretty soon they’ll change the name Chloe to Chloea.
 
6.)  More and more Spanish names are dominating the charts as the Hispanic-American population increases.
 
7.)  Other more subtle trends include an on-going interest in Celtic inspired names, names with literary references, musically-inspired names, vocabulary word names, and place names.
 
By and large, there’s no one single defining characteristic of the American naming styles other than the style of…well, quite simply…anything goes.

A World of Regret

A World of Regret

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A few weeks ago several articles were published on the subject of “baby name regret” or “name remorse”. Although none of the studies appears to be scientific, depending on the article you read, the various claims suggest that anywhere between 25% and 50% of parents are rethinking their chosen name. Given the unprecedented variety of names in the American repertoire today, we were not altogether surprised. However, we were astonished by the number of parents who may be unhappy with their choices in recent years. It’s understandable, of course, since we agree with Sigmund Freud who said: “A human being’s name is a principal component in his person, perhaps a piece of his soul.” A person’s name is usually the first impression they give in society, even sight-unseen. Not only do names carry a certain impression, but people really do form judgments solely based on another person’s name. What parent doesn’t want to provide their child with the best possible outcome in life? So why in the world would they find themselves regretting this choice – in essence, the very first choice they make on behalf of their child?  If we are regretting that choice, we’re not exactly off to a good start, are we?
 
It seems there are a couple theories behind why regret is on the rise, some of which we are speculating on our own.
 
“The name I chose is much too popular!” Many parents are citing this reason for their name remorse. Isabella, Emma and Sophia are the three most popular girl names in America today. Among the most commonly used names for boys are Jacob, Ethan and Michael. Parents may regret appearing too trendy or commonplace; perhaps they don’t think they were “cool” or different enough in their name selection. Or they’re bothered by the three other Isabellas in their daughter’s kindergarten class, denying her the individuality they feel she deserves.  We say relax. Just go back to the three most popular girl names in 1980 (Jennifer, Amanda and Jessica) or boy names (Michael, Christopher and Jason). The overly popular name you chose should age just as nicely. The Ï‹ber-popularity of a name is simply a definer of its generation. Popular names usually have staying power and social familiarity, so it’s generally a choice you shouldn’t regret.
 
“I went overboard on uniqueness.” This is another commonly cited reason for regret, and one we have to agree with. Americans pride themselves on being individualistic but here’s the irony: everyone is trying to be unique. And when everyone is doing it, it’s no longer original. Names lose their distinction when they are just another example in the race to be different. Just take the example of  “Nevaeh” (that’s “heaven” spelled backwards). Completely invented early this century, Nevaeh is now one of the highest ranking female names. So now it has the distinction of being both “unique” and “popular”, a combination that is causing quite a backlash. Nevaeh is often cited in surveys as one of the “most hated” baby names today (if you don’t believe us, just troll the naming forums out there). In general, by being too unique, you inadvertently hamper your child with the problem of having to correct the pronunciation and spelling of his or her name throughout his lifetime. Most people we meet with weird sounding or unorthodox spellings of a name claim it is a nuisance. So in your effort to be unique, consider how unique your child wishes to be.
 
“My spouse or partner rejected the name I really wanted.” Ok, so this is another reason apparently cited by parents of regretful names. This is not a complaint we agree with, though, so we won’t be breaking out our violins for you, sorry. In our opinion both parents should have a voice in the naming process and both parents should agree. Most fathers are congenial and easy-going about the mother’s wishes, but if either spouse disagrees, they should be heard. Your child is a product of both of you. Avoid names that start out in conflict. It’s like a bad omen. But don’t willy-nilly to another name quite so fast either. This is why it’s important to have a list of options, all of which excite and interest you. Be thoughtful, so when you get shut down, you have another great name waiting in the wings. This will help avoid future regret.
 
“The name I picked doesn’t fit with my child’s personality.” Be patient, we say to this grievance. Most people seem to have a name that fits just perfectly with the essence of who they are, so allow your kid the time to grow into your chosen moniker.  Chances are you made the right choice. It isn’t to say you made a mistake; after all, to err is human. Only you increase your chances of picking the wrong name if you don’t go through a well thought out process. You’ll avoid this regret if you understand the potential for this regret. In other words, steer clear from names that make huge statements or send loud messages. For instance, you name your daughter Patience but she has the patience of a gnat. Good God, what have I done? Choose names with flexible meanings so your child has more room to grow into them.  This complaint makes us think of Jessica Simpson. On the one hand, she hopes her daughter will prefer Christian Louboutin shoes over Nikes, and then she chooses Maxwell for her name (Maxwell, by the way, is generally accepted as a boy’s name). If she does get the girly-girl she probably wants, then why select such a masculine name? Although celebrities rarely admit regret.
 
“I just regret the name I chose. Period.” Psychologists say that there are simply too many choices available to parents today. Baby naming has become a cottage industry for book authors and website owners. Each new book or website seems to “one-up” the other in terms of the number of baby names they contain between their pages or house in their databases. Popular baby name blogger Laura Wattenberg cites American psychologist Barry Schwartz’s book “The Paradox of Choice” which argues why “less is more”. In other words, American consumers (including parents who are “consumers” of names) are simply given too many choices, and this leads to paralysis, anxiety and doubt.
 
Look, at the end of the day, a name is a permanent brand loaded with a ton of social class implications (like it or not). Although this topic can often be controversial given the sensitivity parents (especially mothers) feel about their name choices, you can’t deny that you are essentially “branding” your child for life. You have a short timeframe, if you’re full of serious regret, to go through the legal process of a name change (probably before your child is two). And adult children have the legal option to change their own names, right? But we want to avoid this at all costs. You want to do right by your child so what’s the best way to increase your chances of making the right decision? Consider the following steps:
 
1.    Be clear on your goal. This involves both emotion and intellect. Your goal may be to give your child a “normal” name that’s either popular and current today, or traditional and time-tested over the years.
2.    Evaluate the importance of your goal. Let’s say your goal is to be unique. Really consider how important this goal is to you. Are you just trying to “stand-out” and be cool for your own narcissistic reasons, or do you really pride yourself on individualism. And will your child?
3.    Collect and organize your options. Pick names that are consistent with your goal, and then throw in a couple that go outside your goal. Just for perspective.
4.    Assess your options against your goal. Your list of names and your positive response to them should validate your goal. You should have a strong sense of confidence, or else you may be on the wrong track.
5.    Choose the winning option. Be thoughtful. Be authentic to yourself. Don’t just think about yourself; think about your child. Chances are, you won’t make a mistake you’ll regret later.
 
In summary, we’ll just say this. Some people might talk behind your back or roll their eyes at your name choice. If you know who you are, and are a confident, self-assured person, you won’t care. Someone, somewhere, at some time will find something negative to say about your child’s name.  That’s their problem. Not yours.

Happy St. Patrick’s Day

Happy St. Patrick’s Day

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The tiny nation of Ireland (including Northern Ireland) has had a great influence on the naming practices and traditions in the United States. The Irish have given us so many wonderful names which have been adopted in large numbers by Americans of Irish descent and even those with none. When we think of Irish names, certain ones come to mind immediately. Of course there’s the patron saint of Ireland, St. Patrick, whose feast day we celebrate on March 17.  Ironically, Patrick is a name derived from Latin and not Gaelic. St. Patrick was born a Roman citizen in Britain toward the end of the 4th century and his name is derived from the Latin "patricius" meaning "patrician, nobly born". Nevertheless, he is so strongly associated with Ireland that the name is practically used in generic terms to describe an Irishman. In Ireland, however, the name is spelled Pádraig and pronounced PAW-drig.
 
For boys, from the Irish we get the staple, timeless classics such as Sean, Brian, Ryan and Kevin. Although no Irish masculine name is more popular than Aidan right now in the United States (even if Americans spell it Aiden with an "e"). Another popular trend among Americans is using Irish surnames as first names. Some of the most common in this category are Connor, Riley, Brady, Cullen, Donovan, Keegan and Finnegan.  Though less popular for boys in America are other Irish first names such as Nolan and Oscar. Shane, Northern Ireland’s version of Sean, is another cool name. We also like Malachi, Declan and Finn. Of course there are the ever-popular favorites Braden and Brendan.
 
Let’s talk about the little girls now. Arguably, Erin could be considered one of the "most" Irish female names since the name’s meaning is "Ireland". If you’re a lover of all things Celtic/Gaelic Irish, then naming your daughter Erin is perhaps making the ultimate statement. But if you want to look to another Irish patron saint, then look no further than St. Bridget herself.  Right now, Aoife is a very popular female given name in Ireland, which is the Gaelic version of Eve.  The Irish also use Ciara with great frequency but Americans prefer the more anglicized Keira. Let us not forget Caitlin, the darling Irish equivalent to Catherine which Americans have adopted as their own and repurposed into a multitude of respellings (Katelyn, Kaitlin, Caitlyn, etc). The very popular Bianna is considered a feminized version of the Irish male name Brian. As with their baby boys, American parents are also drawn to Irish surnames as given names for their baby daughters. Some that come to mind are Cassidy, Kennedy, Reagan, and Ashley. There are also several Irish name which have become unisex in America and readily used on both genders: Riley, Teagan, Ryan, Casey, Rowan and Quinn.  Other Irish female names to consider? There’s always Kelly and Shannon. After Ashley and Brianna in terms of popularity, there’s Kaylee (perhaps the most butchered arguably Irish female name in America). We can hardly call that one Irish, but it appears to have been borrowed from the Irish and then mutilated with an obnoxious amount of respellings. Its Gaelic root may be Ceilí meaning "party, celebration".  We get Alana and Maeve from the Irish, but Fíona is actually Scottish-Gaelic. If you want to really show off your Irish roots, then consider the following female names:
 
Name Pronunciation Meaning
Sinéad shi-NAYD Female form of Jane/John
Saoirse SEER-sha Freedom
Siobhán shi-VAWN Female form of Joan/John
Niamh NEEV Bright (see Nia)
Caoimhe KEE-va Gentle, graceful beauty